is starting her first year at law
school and also planning her wedding,
but somehow still finds time to write for the
Daily Beacon, the independent student
newspaper at the University of Tennesee, Knoxville.
How she became
interested in modesty is a fascinating
story. When we caught up
with Sarah, she admitted that:
never one of my passions and I
pushed my parents' modesty limits
just like most other girls. Then,
I read the book "Dress for
Success for Women" by John
T. Malloy. The book does not really
discuss a philosophy of proper
attire, but one of its major points
is that sexy attire and success
are negatively correlated. The
more skin you show, the less professional
you look. The premise got me thinking
about fashion in general and the
messages our clothes send to others.
I got hung up on the idea of fashion
as a tool of communication.
If you don't
think of fashion as communication
and think about how others interpret
it, then you will inevitably communicate
the wrong thing. My problem with
immodest clothing is not that
it conveys a negative message;
my problem is that I don't think
people realize what message they
are conveying. Specifically, girls
don't realize how much of an effect
sex appeal has on guys. If you
want a guy to desire you, then
plunge those necklines and mini
those skirts. But if you want
a guy to respect you, admire you,
or commit to you, then "sexy"
will distract from what you are
trying to convey.
If you want
to read more of Sarah's fantastic,
incisive commentary, her columns
have recently included "Sexuality
Not the Path to True Love"
Foster Degrading Image"
an except from Sarah's more recent
column, on chivalry:
code of honor has been replaced
by protective laws against sexual
harassment, rape and the like.
These laws are good and necessary,
but they do not sufficiently replace
the standards of chivalry because
they cannot truly set the line
between acceptable and unacceptable
behavior. Only internal social
pressure can convince a man that
he should not act against a womans
best interests when he has the
advantage over her.
there is almost no one weaker
than a freshman girl drunk at
a fraternity party. The chivalrous,
and right, thing to do would be
to take her home no matter what
she wanted to do. Even if she
were falling all over herself
to hop into bed, a gentleman would
not take his unfair advantage.
Traditionally, if the guy failed
to recognize this, her male friends
and even his friends would condemn
him for it.
day standard allows the guy to
take her into the back room and
try his luck. Other men would
not denounce him; in fact some
would cheer him on.
may be legal if she consents.
(And even if theyre not,
she statistically wont press
charges or have much of a case
if she does.) But what he did
was wrong according to almost
anyone with a sense of honor.
always been cads and scoundrels
who take advantage of those weaker
than themselves. But the degradation
of chivalry in modern society
makes us less able to stop them.
So, who says
you have to be a sex columnist to
be hip? Today sex columnists are
a dime a dozen, and some of the
best journalism today from young
women who actually believe in modesty
and honor. Women like Sarah are
the ones truly influencing the campus
debate, by challenging people's
preconceived notions about what
Sarah, we are
in awe--keep up the great work!
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