Competition was stiff for this months
Rebel, but one name kept coming
up again and again. She is daring,
articulate and brilliant, and shes
only 24 years old.
Yup, you guessed
it: Ambra Nykol, one of the truly
independent thinkers of our time.
Raised in Seattle, Ambra once nearly
brought her Wesleyan professor to
tears in religion class just
by asking a basic question.
After noticing that the university
allowed people to run around naked
in their dorms, Ambra started
to rethink giving four years of
her life to what she calls Sodom
University.
It took only
two semesters for Ambra to realize
that a private liberal arts college
was $34,000 more dollars a
year than I was willing to incur
in student loan debt, especially
when, as she puts it, she could
probably learn more at the
public library or by watching the
History Channel. The summer
before her sophomore year, against
the advice of seemingly everyone,
Ambra did the unthinkable: she decided
she wasnt going back.
Now, were
not advocating dropping out of college
here, but if anyone can flourish
on sheer intellect and personality
alone, its Ambra.
Check out her
amazing
blog.
Currently beholden
to no one, Ambra recently turned
her laser beam on parents who
thrust condoms at kids instead of
giving them real advice.
We asked Ambra why she thought there
were so many female exhibitionists
on the Internet. Is it just the
nature of the medium? Ambra replied,
I think
the bigger question is why are
so many female exhibitionists,
period? Why do girls pose so provactively
in magazines? Why do women leave
the house wearing skirts so short
they might as well be belts? So
goes life. So goes the Internet.
The Internet is merely a closer
peek into the problems that already
exist in our society.
I
believe it ultimately comes down
to the need for attention. But
not just any type of attention.
There is nothing wrong with being
desirous of male affirmation and
attention, but the problem I see
today is that the "need"
is rooted in insecurity. Many
women find their worth in what
other people say about them. Sure,
we all want to be noticed, but
some women would rather have negative
attention than no attention.
Today, many
female voices on the Internet
are foul-mouthed, lewd and disgusting.
Just this year, a Capitol Hill
staffer (who shall remain nameless
lest she get any publicity from
me) won acclaim when she briefly
blogged about her gratuitous sex
life with various prominent men
in her workplace. She was subsequently
fired for "misuse of government
property" and ultimately
landed a handsome book deal as
a consolation prize. Nice. So
this is what we're teaching our
daughters? Be promiscuous and
you'll rise to the top? No thanks.
I'll stick with purity and integrity.
We live
in a perverted society. Not a
day goes by when we aren't constantly
bombarded by indecency. We live
in a culture that blatantly rewards
women for exposing themselves.
It's now ingrained in our minds
that if we behave a certain way,
we will get attention.
So, no:
I don't think it's just the nature
of the medium. I believe it's
the nature of the culture and
as a consequence of a perverted
culture, we get a perverted medium.
As long as we continue to allow
the standard to be lowered, we
will continue to see such displays
of exhibitionism. We (the collective)
allow it. We watch it. We go to
the websites. We tune in weekly.
We buy the book written by the
girl who chronicled her sex life
online. This problem will continue
as long as we provide an audience.
So that's
why those who know better have
a big burden to bear. We must
lift up our moral standard.
For taking
this responsibility seriously, and
raising our standards to heretofore
unknown heights, Ambra Nykol is
not only our favorite blogger on
the Internet, but our November 2005
Rebel of the Month.
Ambra, you
are the greatest!
If youd
like to write to Ambra, you can
e-mail us at: rebels@modestyzone.net.
If
you would like to nominate a Rebel—including
yourself—please send a short
personal profile and what you are
rebelling against to: rebelofthemonth@modestyzone.net.
There is no age limit, but high
school and college students will
be given priority over grandmas,
since grandmas, after all, are supposed
to be good.
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