October 10, 2005 | In US Weekly, actor Paul Walker explains under what circumstances he recommends sex on the first date: when neither party cares about each other. As he explained, "If you do it, chances are it's not going to go anywhere. But if you both know it's not going anywhere, then there's nothing wrong with it."

Wendy Shalit comments: Sara, thanks for sending this in. But I'm wondering, if no one wants the relationship to go anywhere, aren't there better ways of expressing antipathy than having intimate relations? I mean, why not try boxing? It's less likely to result in STDs and children and then these people could really express their dislike for each other. What do you think?

Sara replies: When I dislike someone—or merely feel that the relationship is going nowhere—I tend to not want to waste any more time on that person. Boxing may be better, as you suggest, but probably not worth the energy. I would prefer to just go home (by myself), sit on the couch, watch some television, and have a snack. When I was a single person, I probably would have been thinner had I instead boxed all of my lousy dates. I have met people who had “one night stands” that produced children. It’s bizarre. As parents, they are virtual strangers and yet, they have to raise a child together. That’s a big “whoops.”

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