July 1, 2005
is too tight? I have a first date
on Sunday and Im wondering
what to wear. Thanks very much—
First of all,
congratulations on landing a real
date! I'm impressed that you're
not hooking up and that you've actually
found someone to take you out. Now,
if you can also manage to put on
clothing for this date, you may
make the Guinness Book of World
is a difficult one, and has stumped
many a philosopher. Long before
"to be, or not to be," the more
desperate question—"too tight,
or not too tight?"—echoed
from grasshuts, marking the beginnings
I would be
lying if I told you I had a pat
answer to this eternal disquisition.
I do, however, have a general rule
of thumb: if you would be totally
embarrassed wearing an outfit to
a job interview, then it's probably
not the best thing to slip on for
a date. I am operating on the assumption
that your objective is to get your
date to take you seriously as a
person—one with emotions,
opinions, and hopes for the future.
In other words, as more than a body.
In my opinion,
something is too tight when it draws
attention away from you, and draws
people to specific parts of your
body. I'm sure you know which parts
of your body I'm talking about.
Those hats which emphasize your
ears, for instance, and make you
look like Arwen from The Lord
of the Rings . . . .
elves aside for the moment, you
truly can look attractive without
presenting yourself as a sex object.
In fact, I firmly believe that women
are more attractive without super-tight
there is a certain fashion nowadays
which totally boggles my mind: girls
wearing skin-tight polyester shirts.
Typically sold in pale green, pink
or blue, and a few sizes too small,
these shirts have the overall effect
of someone standing above the poor
girl and dropping a bucket of paint
on her. You go over to help wipe
the paint off, only to realize that
it's the material of her "fashionable"
shirt! Ostensibly, the shirt is
designed to emphasize the chest
area, but it also emphasizes every
other curve and indentation below
the bra line. So girls of a perfectly
normal weight end up looking like
colorful Sumo wrestlers, and then
they go on extreme diets to look
normal in these inherently ugly
I would never dream of telling
someone what to wear, but may I
suggest that this might not be the
most flattering choice?
Have a wonderful
time on your date, and let me know
how it goes!